Finding out about an unexpected pregnancy can be an emotional and life-changing moment for your friend. As someone she trusts, your support can make a significant difference—but you might not know where to start.
Here are some ways to show empathy, provide assistance, and empower your friend during this time.
1. Be a Good Listener
The first thing your friend needs is someone who will listen without judgment. Create a safe space for her to share her thoughts and feelings. Avoid offering immediate advice unless she asks for it. Instead, use phrases like, “I’m here for you” or “How can I support you right now?”
2. Offer Emotional Support
Your friend may be feeling overwhelmed, scared, or uncertain about the future. Acknowledge her emotions and reassure her that she doesn’t have to face this alone. Let her know it’s okay to not know how to feel, and that you are here to walk alongside her in this new journey.
3. Help Her Get the Information She Needs
If your friend is unsure of how to move forward, encourage her to take the time she needs to learn about her options, which include parenting, adoption, and abortion. While searching for information on these topics can feel overwhelming, we’re here to help your friend cut through the noise by offering a safe space where she can ask questions and find medically accurate information.
4. Assist Practically
If she’s open to it, simply be a presence of hope in her life. This could mean helping her find resources like a local pregnancy center, helping her schedule appointments, or simply being there for moral support. Small gestures like running errands, helping her with household chores, or sharing a meal can also ease her stress.
5. Keep The Decision In Her Hands
Ultimately, the choice about how to move forward is hers to make. Avoid pressuring her with your thoughts and feelings, but rather come alongside her so that she can make an informed choice. Pointing her to a resource like Mosaic can help her explore her options and receive the care she needs during a difficult time.
6. Stay Present
Your support matters not just in the early stages but throughout her journey. Check-in regularly and let her know she can rely on you.
We’re Here for Her
Thank you for your desire to support your friend right now. She needs you now more than ever.
As you two walk through this, encourage your friend to make a free, confidential appointment at Mosaic Sexual Health Clinic. Here, she can learn more about her options and find free support resources and services.